A Letter to My Younger Self: Words of Wisdom from a Work in Progress
Hey there,
I’ve been thinking a lot about how far we’ve come and the challenges we’ve faced along the way, feeling quite nostalgic. If I could sit down and write a letter to my younger self, here’s what I’d say:
Dear Younger Me,
I know you’re feeling overwhelmed right now, and it’s okay. Life can be incredibly challenging, and you’re going through so much. I want you to know that you’re stronger than you realize, and there are a few things I’ve learned along the way that I think you need to hear.
1. It’s Okay to Ask for Help
You might be struggling with anxiety or feeling like the weight of trauma is too much to bear alone. Remember, asking for help is a sign of strength, not weakness. You’re going to meet a therapist that will change your life and reaching out to those who love you can make a world of difference. There’s no need to face everything by yourself.
2. Healing Takes Time
With the plethora of challenges, drama, and general bullshit that riddles your twenties, remember that healing is not a race! It’s okay to take things one step at a time. Be patient with yourself, and recognize that progress might be slow, but every step forward is a victory.
3. Embrace Life Transitions with Openness
Change can be scary, but it’s also a chance for growth and new beginnings. You will start new jobs, quit bad ones, move apartments and cities, leave an unfulfilling relationship, and enter a new season in your life. Try your best to embrace these transitions with an open heart. Remember, each new chapter brings opportunities for learning and growth. I think you’ll really like who you become.
4. Self-Care Isn’t Selfish
Taking care of yourself is essential and non-negotiable. Spoiler alert- we don’t stay young forever. Prioritize your well-being by establishing a routine that includes rest, exercise, and activities that bring you joy. Self-care isn’t about being selfish; it’s about ensuring you have the strength and energy to navigate life’s challenges.
5. You Are Not Defined by Your Struggles
Your struggles do not define you. You are a whole, amazing person deserving of love and happiness. Your experiences shape you, but they do not limit your potential. And they certainly do not define you as a person. Your character lies in who you are despite what you’ve endured. Embrace your strengths and be kind to yourself. Double down on this kindness when things are tough.
6. Find Your Community
Surround yourself with people who lift you up, love you, and understand what you’re going through. Whether it’s friends, family, or an online community, having a support system can make a huge difference. There are people out there who will love you fiercely and unwaveringly. Go find them.
7. Trust Your Journey
It’s easy to compare yourself to others, but remember that everyone’s journey is unique. Trust that you are on the path that is right for you. Celebrate the wins, no matter how small they may seem, and have faith that things will get better.
You’re stronger than you know, and the future holds so much potential for your joy and fulfillment. As you navigate these challenges, remember that there is hope and support available to you. Take it one day at a time and know that you’re not alone.
Forever Your Biggest cheerleader,
Older You
Oh and PS: Don’t give yourself bangs… again.
I hope this letter resonates with you and offers a sense of comfort and hope. If you’re struggling with anxiety, trauma, life transitions, depression, or perinatal mental health, please remember that support is available. Explore our website for more resources, tips, and support for what you’re going through or reach out to me here to see how I can help.
You’ve got this.
Warmly,
Shaye